Some Kingdoms Must Be Ruled Alone
People often say it’s lonely at the top. But I’ve learned that being alone isn’t always bad, sometimes it’s just peaceful and quiet. This year taught me that personal growth sometimes works best when you’re on your own. Not because you’re angry at others, but because it’s the smart thing to do.
I didn’t choose to be alone at first – life pushed me that way. But in the quiet moments by myself, I discovered something important: you don’t always need other people’s opinions or approval for every decision you make.
When I started spending more time alone, some people thought I was lonely or cutting myself off from others. They didn’t understand that there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. When I was by myself, I could think more clearly. Without everyone telling me what I should do, I could finally hear my own thoughts.
This year, I learned that some decisions are best made alone. When I moved to Accra, I didn’t need a group discussion. I just knew it was right for me. When I decided to improve myself through certificates and learning new skills, I didn’t need anyone’s approval. These were choices I made for myself, trusting my own judgment.
The good thing about being independent isn’t that you have no one around – it’s that you can take care of yourself. I learned that my value doesn’t depend on how many friends I have, but on how strong my beliefs are. Some people called me proud when I didn’t explain my choices, but I was just protecting my peace. Some blamed me when I failed at first tries, but they didn’t know I would bounce back stronger.
Here are the simple rules I made for my peace of mind:
- I don’t have to go to every event I’m invited to
- I don’t have to listen to everyone’s opinion
- I don’t have to keep every relationship going
- I don’t need others to validate my feelings
The biggest lesson was understanding that being independent doesn’t mean being completely alone. It means being complete on your own, so you can choose your relationships instead of needing them to feel whole. Like a lighthouse – it stands alone but helps guide others.
Yes, some parts of life must be handled alone. In the end, the most important conversations happen in your own mind, where you’re both the teacher and the student, both the fighter and the peacemaker.
This independence isn’t about keeping people away – it’s about having high standards. It’s not about avoiding others – it’s about focusing on your own growth. In my journey of independence, I finally understood: the person who will always be most loyal to me is myself.
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