Royal Decree: Choosing Peace Over Toxic Loyalty

Sometimes in life, we have to make hard choices to find peace. Today, I want to talk about loyalty; not the good kind that makes our lives better, but the harmful kind that hurts us.

For a long time, I thought being strong meant putting up with bad treatment. I was wrong. This year taught me some important lessons about loyalty:

1. As a graphic designer, some people tried to take advantage of me. They asked for my work but then refused to pay or tried to pay less than we agreed. I learned that it’s okay to say no to people who don’t value my work.
2. When I was teaching in a private school, the school thought they had power over me because they thought I desperately needed the job. They started giving me work that wasn’t part of my job description and treated me poorly. They didn’t expect me to leave, but I did because I know my worth. When the school owner begged me to come back to finish the term, I refused. Sometimes the best way to teach people your value is to show them what life looks like without you.
3. In my personal life, I faced a tough situation. The mother of my first child spread lies about me, saying I was a deadbeat father. She didn’t do this alone. She made sure she aligned with people who would be ready to join her tarnish my image. This gave Romeo the opportunity to disrespect me, a bottom feeder had a chance because an enemy gave him a way. she came back wanting to make things right, I chose to move forward without her. Sometimes peace means not going back to people who hurt you.
4. At work, some colleagues took advantage of my kindness. I had to set clear boundaries and stop being close to people who didn’t respect them.
5. I also had friends who would borrow money but never pay it back. Each time this happened, I realized it wasn’t just about the money, it was about respect.

I started asking myself important questions:

1. Does this relationship bring me peace or stress?
2. Am I staying because I want to, or because I feel I have to?
3. Does this person make my life better or worse?
4. Do they value me, or do they just need what I can offer?

The hardest lesson was realizing that some relationships are like comfortable prisons. We stay because we’re used to them, not because they’re good for us. Walking away isn’t being disloyal, it’s being brave. Choosing yourself isn’t being selfish, it’s being wise.

So today and forever, I choose;

1. Peace over harmful relationships
2. Self-respect over being used
3. My well-being over keeping people happy
4. My worth over others’ convenience

Taking care of yourself isn’t betraying others. Your first job is to protect your own peace even if that means leaving situations where people undervalue you. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can say is “no,” and the bravest thing you can do is walk away.

In my life now, peace isn’t just something I hope for, neither is it just an “Eŵe name”. it’s something I make happen. And my worth isn’t something others get to decide. It’s something I know and protect.

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