Adjusting My Crown
“They say a crown isn’t meant to fit perfectly at first; it’s meant to teach you how to hold your head up right.”
I learned this year that shifting my crown is more about perspective than it is about perfection. Unresolved drama weighed heavily enough to cause my crown to slide at the start of the year, like an unwanted inheritance. I began to doubt my value, saw my self-assurance erode, and nearly lost myself in the silence I believed to be precious.
Then came the question that rocked my world: “Why are you unable to defend yourself? For once, at least, stand up for what you believe in. It was a mirror I had to look into. I had always thought that calm was worth more than gold, but I had no idea that every quiet moment was actually costing me my value as a person. Thus, rather than taking off the crown that swayed on my head, I decided to modify.
The ritual of adjustment wasn’t easy. People in my immediate social group and at work had been accustomed to my acquiescence. Some relationships broke like glass when I started to stand my position, while others changed like metal in a fire. I reestablished boundaries with certain people and lost others without sorrow. Every “no” turned into a gem in my crown, and every restriction strengthened my rule.
I learned the value of self-defense and how to retaliate against those who attempted to damage my name by spreading false information. When I eventually made the decision to choose myself, those who had been used to my unending generosity took offense. Uncomfortable with my self-centeredness, former confidants disseminate lies in poisonous ways.
But through this tide of trials and triumphs, I learned the most precious lesson: The crown you wear isn’t validated by others’ approval – it’s authenticated by your own worth. People will care for you as long as you fit into their story, but your story isn’t meant to be a supporting role in someone else’s narrative.
Your crown may tilt, but it’s the adjustment that creates the queen. Sometimes, losing people is not a loss but a coronation – a ceremony that teaches you that the most important person to stand up for is yourself. Your silence should never be a throne for others to sit upon while your worth stands in waiting.
Today, my crown sits differently, not because it’s perfect, but because I’ve learned that adjusting it is an act of self-love, and sometimes, the most royal thing you can do is choose yourself first.
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